Sleeping with the friend.
October 19, 2008
For those who know me this is nothing less than a perfect first entry. So I need some opines from the great wide world. Sleeping with a friend–Kosher? Spoiled? Bad News Bears?
To break it down a little more into a context try this on for size.
To the moral world (of which I like to consider myself a citizen) sleeping with anyone while you are in a relationship is bad, off limits, ‘illegal’ shall we say. But what about if you’re just dating someone and not “in a relationship” ya know like oh I went on a few dates with that person and we’ll probably go out again but I don’t particularly see it going anywhere and I’m feeling a lil’ froggy so I’m gonna bang an ol’ tried and true…. Anything wrong with that?
No really I’m asking…Is there something wrong with that?
How about context B…You are sleeping with the friend, but another friend (or two–maybe on is even an ex…no this is not based on a true story) comes along; are these new additions to the stage fair game? Does friend-1 need to be made aware of friend-2 and vice versa? Where does the line get drawn before one is a player or a womanizer…or a man-eater.
What would Carrie do?
They both sound a-okay to me. I think the most important thing is just to be up front about stuff, especially if the other party(ies) ask or hint about other partners.
If people are comfortable enough to put their faces/parts in eachother’s faces/parts, they’re usually comfortable enough to ask/tell each other stuff.
Yeah I agree with Liz. You (and I’m using “you” as a worldly term, not like, YOU, EMILY) need to be open about it, I think it’s important to tell people who you’ve been dating that you’re sleeping with someone else because you don’t really know how that other person feels. Like, if you haven’t talked to him then you might THINK he feels one way and he, in fact, may feel a much different way. So I think it’s important to kind of tell people what’s up.
But, as far as your whore comment, I wouldn’t think someone was a whore (or man-whore) for sleeping with those people if they’re just dating someone. I would however, want to know if the guy I was seeing on some dates was sleeping with someone else, just because I would kinda wanna know whether I should start something with him or not. Also if he has the hiv.